20. Focus delight (love, for the case of breakup)

Go easy: compare only two thoughts, find out which one of them feels better. Then each next thought compare to the best feeling one found before, finding the new best feeling thought.

Do not try to convince yourself in anything. Just rely on the power that holds and embraces you, when you’re thinking a better feeling thought.

Rely on this authority inside you, on this warm feeling.

This is the light of Source shed upon you.

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We are not trying to find out what is true in your current physical reality. We are trying to find a thought that serves you better, you don’t need to know why or how.

It serves you better even right away, when you’re allowing your life energy to flow through you more freely (which is indicated by relief).

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Standpoint of a Deliberate Allower

I’m delegating solving this problem to the Universe

and since I, dealing with this contrast,
gave birth to something really wonderful in my Vortex,

I will focus on connecting with my Source,
to connect with what I put there in my Vortex,
to feel these wonderful things that I put there,
to feel reconnected with mySelf, the Expanded Version of Me,
with my newly added power.

As long as this contrast still feels like a problem that should be solved,
it simply means that there still are some benefits in my Vortex, which I haven’t connected to, yet.
So I’ll wonder, what they are? how they feel?

And I feel and appreciate my love and my power.

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“If you know you have the capability of imagining what you would like to be, understand, as we have said, that your ability to imagine what you would like to be is your ability to be that person, that version of you.

If you have the ability to conceive how you want to be, at the moment you conceive it, you are that person. But when you deny your imagination your reality and say, “Okay, I’ve imagined what I would like to be; now what do I have to see, what do I have to do, to become this idea?” you are placing all the steps in your way that it’s taking for you to get there.

Your ability to imagine that person is being that person — because if you weren’t of that vibration, you wouldn’t be able to picture it!

The events in your life can only be 100% reflective of the person you have decided you are. Allow yourself to recognize that your ability to even imagine there is another way to be, is being the other way.

All you need is a basic trust that at any given moment you have what you need; you know everything you need to know to be who you are being in that moment. As soon as you redefine who you are, you will know the things that person needs to know, regardless of what you’re seeing around you.” — Bashar

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So here’s what I realized that I want in my happy relationship:

or in other words,

So here’s what I realized that is waiting for me in my Vortex as my happy relationship, this or better:

(tip: to come up with the list, you might compare the man you liked with other men, other people, and this way, one by one, find the features you really like.

and then you might think also, what you could get better than what you experienced with the man you liked; what entered your Vortex thanks to your relationship with him)

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He loves me.

He appreciates me.

He loves all I am.

We’re both free to be, do, have all we want.

He’s such a match to me in my energy, that our sex is delicious in its every expression, our conversation is delicious in its every second, our interaction is delicious in its every moment.

I feel warm in my heart when I’m with him.

With him I feel comfortable, understood, valued, loved, sure, secure, lovely, beautiful inside and outside, desired, interested in him, him interested in me, feminine, tender, having the permission to be wild, all loved, joyful, darling, in place, together, contributing, co-creating, easy, loving, independent, equal, powerful, worthy, getting exactly what I want, down to the last tiny detail, tended to, cared for, caring for, accepted, loving, loved.

He replies to my emails. :)

He speaks to me when I like it. And in general, he has a great sense of timing. :)

When I see him, I want him.

When I’m thinking about him, I feel loving and loved.

He understands what I am about. He feels me, every movement of my soul, and he can reply to it.. and he does reply to it.

He wants to have it as long lasted as I do.

All I want is available to me. I feel lucky.

In our experiences, I feel how they express, reflect the Vortex side of what I’ve lived.

I appreciate my whole life.

I feel skilled, smart. I feel his respect, and I respect him. He is smart and skilled. We understand, respect, value each other. It’s interesting for us to talk.

I like thinking about him, I feel easy, I remember the funny moments we’ve experienced together, and I anticipate delicious moments we will have in our future, close and far.

We love walking together, we both love romantics, candles, love, heart warmth and tenderness.

I love being with him, he loves being with me. We both feel that the other’s presence enriches our life. It’s a great fun for us to be together.

He understands when I want/have to be alone, and he respects it. He gives me my time. He has a great sense of timing.

I feel beautiful, when I’m with him.. or without him.

I feel worthy, when I’m with him.. or without him.

Thinking about him is uplifting for me.

I feel his love always.

I want to do things for him and with him.

I love cooking for him, for us, and it goes well. He appreciates my cooking and likes to surprise me, too.

It’s pretty easy for me to align with our ever-improving future, feeling better and better.

We really match in our sex preferences.

We love giving a massage to each other.

He lets me be me. He supports me in being me. Encourages me to being the full me. Loving me as I am.

I feel lucky in his presence. I feel lucky about us when I’m not with him, too.

I feel our togetherness, always, and it feels good, always.

We share things with each other, and we understand each other in the things we share. It is always of value for both of us.

We both feel, that as much as there’s value in our relationship, there’s even more drive, and fun, and pleasure. We’re enjoying each other, in so many aspects.

He’s telling me: “You’re the one.” I’m telling him: “You’re the one.”

I feel that being with me is in his Vortex.

It’s delicious for me to think about him and feel him. It’s so delicious for us to feel that we’re together and be together.

It feels like he is the best guy in the whole world. :) And it’s so understandable that I’m with him.

It’s so understandable that we’re together.

More thoughts & options for this step,
and your versions of the above, that feel better to you:

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Now, if you’re feeling any better, celebrate it! :)
Give yourself credit for it.
Bask in this sweet relief, this renewed confidence, this easiness of being.
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